Dating Someone?

Hey Joe,

I hear from Bob that you’re going to ask so-and-so out!  I wish you good luck!  I am very happy and overjoyed to hear that you are trying to get more social.  However, always remember to not get too carried away with your sweet heart. 

The main purpose of my email to you is to remind you about staying pure.  You know, like refraining from certain specific activities (sex) and the like.  Before you start to date your would-be girlfriend, set your limits for yourself.  Encourage her to do the same and tell you about them so you can keep each other accountable.  Apart from setting boundaries for yourself, you should both sit down together and make some boundaries for each other as well.  That way, each of you will know what the other person thinks is appropriate and will know what you should do on your part.  What your limitations are should come from the Bible as it does give good advice for this sort of thing.  As a Christian, you need to keep yourself pure and abstain from anything immoral.  Jesus tells us not to lust and to refrain from immoral desires and thoughts.  These can help us by not tempting ourselves with our brain.  So, get your mind out of the gutter when you are with her.  Pretend (not that he isn’t already) that Jesus is always next to you and is watching your every move. 

Also, above all things don’t have sex with her.  Keep in mind those boundaries that you set in the beginning.  Mind them and don’ cross over them.  Once you step across the line, who knows what you may do next?  I know that you really want to because she is sooo hot but don’t.   It might feel good at first, but then there are the consequences and I don’t think that you are quite ready for the responsibility of bearing a child.  Also, by doing this, you are breaking one of the laws that God laid down for us.  Do no commit adultery.  Pre-marital sex is fornication-a kind of adultery.  You will be doing the same thing as what adulterers do.  You would have used your girlfriend to satisfy your wants but you have not thought of how this event will affect her for the rest of her life.  By having intercourse, you are taking advantage of this relationship and are being very selfish.  If you loved her, this is not what you will do.  There is also the risk of STD’s to think of and AID’s and all the other nasty diseases that can be contracted through this specific activity.  And remember, your body is the temple of God and God dwells in you.  WWJD.  What would Jesus do in such a situation?  He would have self-control. 

So, when you date so-and-so, remember to set those limits and don’t cross them.  Some people even limit themselves to holding hands and side-hugging.  However, it might not be the same for you.  You need to set your own limits and you can pray and ask God for help in this matter.  When you set your limits, set them so that what you allow yourself to do doesn’t cause you to think or be immoral.  However, my one advice for you is this: Keep those clothes on!  And keep those hands to yourself when you are together.  Don’t try to push those limits and see how far you can go.  Once you realize that you’ve gone way over the line, the results might not be as good as they seem.

Good luck with your dating, I wish the best of luck!
-George